Dealing with Family Trauma Around the Holidays
By David Shoup | Trauma
The holidays are often a complex time for many people. On the one hand, there is a sense of joy in the air, while on the other hand, there may be sorrow and grief caused by loss or difficult family dynamics.
The following are some ways you can cope with family trauma around the holidays:
Have an Escape Plan
It's important not to isolate during the holidays. Being around loved ones who support and care for you can be healing. At the same time, it's wise to have a plan that allows you to step away when you begin to feel triggered or overwhelmed. This might mean driving separately so you can leave when you need to. Don't be afraid to set boundaries and honor them.
Feel Your Feelings
The holidays often come with pressure to “put on a good face” and act cheerful. But ignoring your emotions won't help. Healing comes from facing your feelings honestly. If you're feeling angry, anxious, or sad, it's okay to bow out of plans rather than forcing yourself to fake joy. Being genuine with yourself is part of the healing process.
Make Self-Care a Priority
When processing trauma and strong emotions, it's easy to let self-care slide—overeating, drinking too much, or losing sleep. But caring for your mind and body is essential. Nourish yourself with healthy food, rest, movement, and activities that bring you calm and strength.
You may also benefit from speaking with someone during this season. A therapist can help you navigate emotions and provide strategies to cope. If you'd like to explore treatment options, please don't hesitate to reach out to me.