Couples: How to Regulate Yourself During Difficult Conversations

By David Shoup | Couples

August 14, 2025

Big emotions can make hard conversations feel impossible — but it is possible to stay connected, even when things get tough.

If you have ADHD, you might notice that certain conversations can quickly spiral. One moment you're trying to talk something through — the next, you're overwhelmed, shut down, or saying things you don't mean. That's not a lack of effort; it's how your nervous system responds under stress.

At Practical Psychology, Inc., we specialize in helping neurodivergent individuals and couples navigate communication challenges using evidence-based tools — including the Gottman Method, which is backed by decades of research on what makes relationships work.

Through this approach, we'll help you:

  • Recognize when you're flooding (feeling emotionally overwhelmed) and learn how to pause and self-soothe
  • Use “soft startups” to express needs without triggering defensiveness
  • Build emotional awareness so you can communicate clearly — even when you're upset
  • Repair after conflict and strengthen emotional connection over time

You don't have to white-knuckle your way through another conversation. With the right tools, you can communicate more effectively, stay present, and feel closer to the people who matter most.

Visit https://practicalpsy.com to learn more or schedule a consultation. We're here to help you build strong, supportive relationships — ADHD and all.